So I have no plans whatsoever to meet guys in Nzema nor in the Ivory Coast. But what do my plans matter? Everywhere I go, some man or another practices his pick up line on me. He asks for my name, introduces himself, and invariably states I want to take you as a friend. I guess I’m supposed to say okay and give my number ( the US one of course), but I so cannot be bothered to play along. I boldly and clearly say NO and they look so surprised. Too funny! Ohh, just a friend? they ask. I know, I say, but I have enough friends and I won’t write to you, email you, nor call you! They back off, with Ahh, ok, I’ll get your number from Uncle, Nana, Auntie or whoever it is we are visiting. Those who feel educated try to impress me with their knowledge, which only serves to make them look worse. You know?!
One sign I have arrived in Nzema (which borders the Ivory Coast) is the sight of men with permed hair. Oh!! Why?!! I blame Ivorian people, especially Didier Drogba, SO NOT COOL!!!!
Back in Accra, I could be walking down the street minding my business when all of a sudden some man – on the street or in a car passing by – would ask ever so politely Please madam/sister/auntie, could you come here a minute? And I reply just as politely NO! which is promptly followed by a surprised Oh! why?! as I go on my merry way. There’s no other reason a guy would call out to an unknown woman to come to him except to make her acquaintance. So, instead of summoning me to his feet like a schoolgirl to the headmaster, he should come to me himself! N’est-ce pas?
A lover of mangoes. A woman - smart, without pretense, lefthanded, Afropolitan - navigating this thing called life. An unapologetic believer in social justice and karma. Choosing to radiate positive energy and be true to myself. Here, my musings.
you should’ve expected this to happen, you gorgeous creature! :o)
what does that mean: I want to take you as a friend? is that the standard pick up line? lol to you shutting them down cold. i keep telling you to take pictures of their facial expressions. …i have enough friends…too funny. where are the pics of the permed hair? that’s definitely something i want to see. it’s interesting to see that over there the guys expect you to go to them when they call out for you. it’s the same here but at least the guys there are more polite about it and don’t curse you out when you decline to make their aquaintance. p.s. have you worn the brown dress yet? if you wear that you will kill them for sure. i see you’re enjoying the shoes
I bought my own shoes, and yes I were them everywhere. nope, no brown dress yet.
and how do you expect me to take pictures of random guys facial expressions!
you just need to save your money, and come to ghana for yourself.
You kill me girl, you kill me! Don’t you just love those lame ass come-ons. You know you deal with them enough, since you keep telling me your the best looking sister!
As if!! not according to your mother.